Bend someone's ear
Meaning
To talk to someone for a long time, often to complain or seek sympathy, potentially monopolizing their attention.
Origin
The phrase "bend someone's ear" evokes a vivid, almost physical image. In crowded 19th-century taverns or bustling markets, a speaker intent on conveying a lengthy complaint or a secret might literally lean in, perhaps even gently tugging on or "bending" the listener's ear, to command their undivided attention amidst the din. This intimate, somewhat intrusive gesture ensured proximity and a captive audience for a prolonged monologue. Over time, the physical act faded, but the phrase endured, capturing the essence of someone holding another person's attention for a long, often one-sided conversation, leaving the listener feeling as if their ear had been metaphorically 'taxed' by the speaker's relentless talk.
Examples
- I saw John trying to bend the manager's ear about his promotion prospects for at least half an hour.
- If you let my aunt get started, she'll bend your ear all afternoon about her grandchildren.