Fish for compliments
Meaning
To subtly try to elicit praise or admiration from others by indirectly bringing attention to one's own achievements or qualities.
Origin
The phrase draws its vivid imagery from the literal act of fishing. Just as an angler casts a line with bait, hoping to lure a fish, a person "fishing for compliments" casts out subtle cues—a self-deprecating comment, a casual mention of an achievement, or an invitation for feedback—hoping to lure praise. This metaphorical usage became popular in the 19th century, building on earlier expressions like "fishing for information" or "fishing for a quarrel," which also used the fishing analogy to describe an indirect or artful attempt to obtain something desired. The phrase captures the often transparent, yet indirect, nature of seeking validation.
Examples
- After showing off her new painting, she kept asking everyone what they thought of the brushwork, clearly fishing for compliments.
- He began to recount all his accomplishments from the week, making it obvious he was fishing for compliments from his boss.